Co-parenting after divorce is a challenge, as there are a number of things you’re trying to accomplish to ensure that you maintain a strong relationship with your children.
The decisions you make before, during and after the divorce process will impact what happens in the future. With this in mind, there are several tips you can follow to ease the tension and get on the right track:
- Follow the terms of your parenting agreement and visitation schedule: In your divorce, you worked through the creation of a parenting agreement and visitation schedule (for the non-custodial parent). This will guide the manner in which you parent your children in the future.
- Put your children first: Don’t let anything come between you and your relationship with your children. For example, if you’re arguing with your ex, don’t take it out on your children. Don’t put them in the middle with hopes that doing so will work in your favor.
- Talk through disputes: Should a dispute move to the forefront, you must communicate with your ex-spouse in an attempt to work things out. Again, you’re not necessarily doing this for yourself. You’re doing this for your children. If you both make an honest effort and making things work, you should be able to find common ground on any dispute.
- Seek a modification: It’s a last resort in most cases, but you may need to seek a modification of your parenting agreement and/or visitation schedule. This often comes into play if your ex-spouse continually violates the terms and conditions. An example of this would be if your ex doesn’t let you spend time with your children as outlined in the visitation agreement.
When it comes to co-parenting with success, these tips should be able to provide some guidance and stability. While there’s nothing simple about navigating the post-divorce process, with a focus on co-parenting, there are steps you can take to put yourself on the right path.
Should you run into an issue that you can’t work out with your ex, learn more about your legal rights and what you must do to get back on track.